Mother Matters
Skin to Skin
childbirth, breastfeeding, mothering, postpartum

Skin to Skin

Skin to Skin by Lenore Kilmartin It surprised me to see the intensity of labour my birth client was experiencing.  She seemed to have skipped early labour altogether and moved quickly into the active phase.  Her young body was responding beautifully to contractions.  She was 19 ...

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The Birth Memory
labour, support, doula, childbirth

The Birth Memory

The Birth Memory by Lenore Kilmartin Her usual cheery face changed and became troubled as she remembered aloud the details of her baby's birth.  Her memories were clear. Despite her ninety plus years of age, her birth recollection remained lucid and precise.  She wanted to share her ...

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The Supporting Role
childbirth, labour, partners

The Supporting Role

The Supporting Role by Lenore Kilmartin I'd met him previously, several times, but we really hadn't made a connection.  He was very busy with his work and often had to leave the room to take a phone call when I was there.  More often than not, he would be sending or checking texts, ...

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New Mothers are Vulnerable
postpartum, mothering

New Mothers are Vulnerable

New mothers are vulnerable... by Lenore Kilmartin They are tired, recovering from birth, learning about their babies.   They are being stretched personally and emotionally in ways they could not have imagined before becoming mothers. So why do family and friends think that ...

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A Peaceful Approach to Labour
Labour

A Peaceful Approach to Labour

A Peaceful Approach to Labour...by Lenore Kilmartin The labouring woman kneeling next to me, supported by a birth ball, was sleeping or so it seemed. Her contractions were coming often.  In between the frequent surges, she had about two to three minutes to rest.  She would rock back ...

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Starting Solids
solids, breastfeeding

Starting Solids

Starting Solids by Lenore Kilmartin. The dog waits patiently, lying under the table, eyes fixated on your hand as you move peas from the high-chair tray to your mouth.  I watch you in wonder, amazed at your ability to feed yourself.  You are determined and focused as you work  to ...

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Postpartum Help
postpartum

Postpartum Help

Postpartum Help by Lenore Kilmartin When I think back to my youngest child's birth, and the postpartum period that followed, I remember Marcia. Marcia was a postpartum doula.  My mother gave me Marcia's help as a gift and I loved every minute of her time with our family.   My ...

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What Mothers Really Need
mothering

What Mothers Really Need

What Mothers Really Need... by Lenore Kilmartin I heard you before I saw you.  I was in the frozen food section and your cry was coming from the other side of the store.   At first I tried to ignore you.  Checking off my grocery list...apples, crackers, almonds...but it was ...

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Postpartum Intimacy
sleep, mothering, postpartum

Postpartum Intimacy

Postpartum Intimacy... by Lenore Kilmartin Recently, I was teaching a class to new parents, helping them to understand the benefits of sharing sleep with their babies; benefits such as enhanced attachment, better sleep for the whole family, improved breastfeeding. I knew it would happen at ...

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Dear Mother in the Park
breastfeeding, mothering

Dear Mother in the Park

Dear Mother in the Park... by Lenore Kilmartin You will never know how glad I am to have spent time with you today.  I haven't met anyone like you before.   I hope you didn't notice me staring at you.  I wasn't meaning to be rude.  In fact, just the opposite.  ...

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