Mother Matters
New Mothers are Vulnerable
postpartum, mothering

New Mothers are Vulnerable

New mothers are vulnerable... by Lenore Kilmartin They are tired, recovering from birth, learning about their babies.   They are being stretched personally and emotionally in ways they could not have imagined before becoming mothers. So why do family and friends think that ...

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What Mothers Really Need
mothering

What Mothers Really Need

What Mothers Really Need... by Lenore Kilmartin I heard you before I saw you.  I was in the frozen food section and your cry was coming from the other side of the store.   At first I tried to ignore you.  Checking off my grocery list...apples, crackers, almonds...but it was ...

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Postpartum Intimacy
sleep, mothering, postpartum

Postpartum Intimacy

Postpartum Intimacy... by Lenore Kilmartin Recently, I was teaching a class to new parents, helping them to understand the benefits of sharing sleep with their babies; benefits such as enhanced attachment, better sleep for the whole family, improved breastfeeding. I knew it would happen at ...

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Dear Mother in the Park
breastfeeding, mothering

Dear Mother in the Park

Dear Mother in the Park... by Lenore Kilmartin You will never know how glad I am to have spent time with you today.  I haven't met anyone like you before.   I hope you didn't notice me staring at you.  I wasn't meaning to be rude.  In fact, just the opposite.  ...

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The Nap
mothering, sleep

The Nap

The Nap... by Lenore Kilmartin I've been waiting for this all morning...the moment when you finally rub your eyes, yawn and lay your head on my shoulder.   With a sigh of relief, I carry you upstairs already anticipating the feel of our comfy bed with you snuggled close to my body, ...

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Breastfeeding Simplified
breastfeeding, mothering

Breastfeeding Simplified

Breastfeeding Simplified... by Lenore Kilmartin. How did something so natural become so complicated?  We give birth, our bodies produce breastmilk, and our babies grow and thrive while nursing at our breast.  The process hasn't changed since the beginning of time.  But something ...

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Judgment
mothering, postpartum

Judgment

You're up before the birds start singing, baby bright-eyed and ready to begin the day.   It's been a rough night...frequent feedings and disturbed sleep.  The hours loom ahead.  You absolutely love this little bundle of baby but sometimes it's lonely.   Days seem ...

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Being Present
mothering

Being Present

Life is busy.  Especially for mothers of young babies.   It can be easy to feel overwhelmed and frustrated at the chores, errands, phone calls, appointments and small tasks that require attention but seem impossible to get to.   Many of us come to mothering straight from ...

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Birth-day Celebrations
breastfeeding, mothering

Birth-day Celebrations

It's Canada's birthday today.  So much to be grateful for... we live in a beautiful, welcoming, baby-friendly country and breastfeeding is embraced by the majority of new parents.  Sure, it's not perfect, and there is lots of room for improvement (breastfeeding rates decrease ...

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Babies and Time
breastfeeding, mothering

Babies and Time

Babies and time... by Lenore Kilmartin Dishes are piled high and items are scattered about the house...a sweater here, a receiving blanket there.   Dust gathers on the coffee table.  A cup of coffee and half-eaten bagel sit  forgotten, cold and unappetizing.  Bills, ...

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Baby, what makes you cry?
mothering, breastfeeding

Baby, what makes you cry?

Baby, what makes you cry?  I am right here, in the other room, steps away from you.  Mama  hasn't left you.  But you don't know that, do you?  You think that I have disappeared, and that I may never come back, permanently gone from you.   Without me, your world ...

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Postpartum Reality
breastfeeding, mothering, postpartum

Postpartum Reality

Postpartum Reality by Lenore Kilmartin How can any first-time mother possibly know what the postpartum period will be like?  There really is no way to mentally prepare for the change a new baby brings.   No book, no class, no friend can truly describe the reality of life with a ...

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Learning to Mother Through Breastfeeding
breastfeeding, mothering

Learning to Mother Through Breastfeeding

Learning to Mother Through Breastfeeding... by Lenore Kilmartin After months and months of preparation, anticipation and some trepidation, you’ve done it!  You’ve birthed your baby.  You’ve welcomed your little one into the world and you are beginning your mothering journey. You gaze ...

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Motherhood Lessons
mothering

Motherhood Lessons

Motherhood Lessons... by Lenore Kilmartin “Being a Mother is not about what you gave up to have a child, but what you’ve gained from having one.” ~unknown Old houses work fine…so do used cars, second­-hand clothes, inexpensive foods like beans and lentils, dented tins, bruised apples and ...

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Hey baby
mothering

Hey baby

Hey baby… by Lenore Kilmartin   Hey, sweet baby of mine, its you, me and the moon shining brightly through the window…I look down at your chubby face, your brow furrowed, nursing at my breast, eyes closed, starfish hands, and I can no longer remember life without you even though ...

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